Marriage...

Okay, after teaching a lesson to my YW about journal keeping today, I couldn't not post this. It's pretty much for me and my posterity, but I'm sure you will get a kick out of it. Let me just preface this by saying that Troy and I are very opinionated. When we argue about something, we both freely tell each other what we think, but we NEVER hold a grudge. We both say our business, usually agree to disagree, and move on with life. I actually LOVE that about being married to Troy. I NEVER tiptoe around him with my opinions, and he doesn't around me. So, sometimes to outsiders they may think that we fight, but we really don't. So...that's a little preface to what happened today...

Okay, Troy has a pet peeve. He HATES it when he's about to go to bed at night, and I have left unfolded clothes on the bed. He has told me he hates it, and I really try hard not to do that. We all know that I don't get to folding clothes just to bug him, but that I'm doing 800 million other things in a day, I sometimes don't get to it. But, ever since he told me he hates it, I try not to do it. Well, I started getting a pet peeve about something that he does. He always leaves a pile of clothes on his side of the bed. Usually his pants with keys, pager (yes, he still has one, for his work), belt, whatever still attached. I told him he could keep his pile in the closet, but I can't stand walking by it every time I walk in our bedroom.

So, this morning, as I was folding clothes, I noticed that he had his usual pile. So, I calmed myself before talking to him, knowing that it never helps to yell, or whatever. In fact, I said, "Honey, you know I love you, but your pile is killing me. We talked about this last week. PLEASE move your pile into the closet."

Well, then he argued with me about how his pile wasn't bothering anybody. I told him I tried to do his request in regards to unfolded clothes on the bed, and I'm now asking him to do the same. His argument, was that since I didn't sleep on the floor by his clothes, that it in no way affected me. My point was that we compromise...I do something for you, you do something for me. Well, he left the room thinking that he had won.

So, naturally I was angry. So, I took all of his clothes that I had just folded and hung up and THREW them on the floor on his side of the bed - unfolded and unhung. I put all the rest of the kids clothes away, and proceeded to get ready for church. While I was getting ready, I heard Troy come in, and pick up his clothes. Nothing more was said. During Sunday School, we came home to add potatoes to the roast (and of course, Troy checked the Jazz score). On the way home, Troy said, "You're pretty funny. I was laughing my head off when I saw all my clothes on the floor. I was going to text you during sacrament (I was reading my scriptures on my iphone) to apologize." I was just silent and he asked, "So, do you forgive me?"

Absolutely.

I love that man. And our marriage. And how I can always tell him exactly what I think. And that he will always tell me exactly how he thinks. 12 and a half years of marriage has worked out just great! Can't wait for more!